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Allure

Mag, my personal #1 supply of sunscreen evaluations and interior scoops on complicated vegetable-related pedicure conditions, has actually launched its first-ever ”
The Aging Process Survey
.” Well, according to the pr release, is in reality an “Anti-Aging” survey, a problematic title which generally seems to declare that “anti-aging” is a position people can handle endorsing when, on the good my personal understanding, just face creams can declare themselves become “anti-aging.” If you’re anti-aging, really does which means that you’re pro-death? If you’re pro-aging, can you remain anti-aging-serum? Unfortunately those concerns were not asked.

Luckily for us many other questions

were

asked: crucial, pushing concerns like “is George Clooney aging gracefully?” (he or she is.) Penn Schoen Berland, the intricately-named firm whom conducted the National Anti-Aging Poll, interviewed 2,000 people, planning to examine “how aging effects every aspect of your life, from relationships on workplace, along with, aging perceptions in pop society.” We believe the genuine intent behind this poll is to sell under-eye ointment, but whatever.

Answers supplied to questions about the elegance of individuals at different ages evidently create some interesting results within “LGBT population” (although I’m able to presume because of my personal familiarity with this fantastic arena of ours that they’re most likely simply referring to Ls and Gs and maybe Bs and failed to make up that “transgender” just isn’t an intimate direction), per a news release shoved into our very own bins this morning. We have but observe the complete study or learn how numerous queers happened to be really surveyed, but just take a gander during the following traces copy-pasted from said press release:

• LGBT participants are more inclined to end up being interested in individuals
  
  over the age of them by above years
  
  in comparison to right respondents
• LGBT participants believe they draw in individuals
  
  more youthful than all of them by a lot more than years
  
  more so than straight respondents would
• 
  73per cent
  
  of LGBT respondents believe ladies convey more stress to check youthful today than they performed several years ago compared to only
  
  46per cent
  
  of LGBT respondents believe males have actually that same pressure.

The review also found that 84 % of all of the males and 91 percent of all females interviewed believe “women tend to be under a lot more force to appear young than men.” Therefore not only is it much more open-minded about exactly who we’re drawn to, queers also appear to feel less pressure to look younger. That’s wonderful plus consistent with conclusions attained by

Lindsy Van Gelder

and

Pamela Robin Brandt

inside their book


Girls Nearby: To The Cardio Of Lesbian America


:

We’re sure that there must be lesbians that simply don’t find earlier ladies hot, but we’ve gotn’t came across all of them. Which can be one reason why aging will not be the upheaval for lesbians it is for many directly ladies. If everything, there are various ladies like [Gay Games weightlifter and Mount Holyoke professor] Jean [Grossholtz], that are up for new encounters because they long since stopped nurturing about performing what was “appropriate.” The paradox is that because we are now living in a subculture that lets us get older gracefully, we become to remain big kids for along time.

After scowling all the way through

Allure

‘s “related post” titled “10 Hairstyles that’ll have you seem decade Younger” and weeping over “10 Things the skin specialist may do to cause you to Look Younger, quicker,” I did only a little math of my very own, contrasting history on the Top 20 women presented on
Maxim Hot 100 2012
to people elected to the
Autostraddle Hot 100 2012
. The outcomes were predictable enough: the common Maxim hottie is 28, an average Autostraddle chick is actually 33.5. Once you slim it straight down even further, Maxim’s top 10 ladies hold typically 28 but Autostraddle’s top 10 picks average out to 35.5. Moreover, 55% of Autostraddle’s leading 20 are 30 or higher, as opposed to 20per cent of Maxim’s record.

Though there aren’t any stats about this, anecdotal proof recommends ladies-who-love-ladies are far more most likely to negate age as a factor when choosing someone (meanwhile, a complete one-third of male baby-boomers polled by

Allure

mentioned they mightn’t date a lady their own get older or more mature) and also that those age distinctions are not stigmatized in the same way that direct couples’ get older variations tend to be. There is a large number of theories with regards to the reason why this really is — in an
Autostraddle post about May-December connections
, Butch miracles suggests that possibly the frequency of age-disparate relationships in queer society “is because we are already doing things that is different from norm, thus a get older distinction above it is simply icing regarding deviance dessert.” Different theories include: the ebony lesbian dating swimming pool has already been rather small very lots of facets (love get older) come to be less vital, intergenerational socializing is far more typical, or the insufficient compliance to conventional age-specific milestones such as wedding and baby-making suggest ladies of greatly different centuries can nevertheless be at the same life-stage. As

Allure

suggests, for most lesbians, a subscription to non-normative beauty expectations can also play a role.

The

Allure

study in addition unearthed that guys think “female charm highs at 29” and women believe it “peaks at 31.” As a 31-year-old who believes solidly that I peaked at 23 or possibly at 11, I found this surprising. Furthermore, as a 31-year-old which gave up my personal ladies’ magazine addiction a few years ago because I suspected it was producing me personally dislike myself, I felt extremely validated about that decision after spending twenty mins on

Allure

‘s web site.

The end result is that there’s absolutely nothing unattractive about the aging process obviously, although producers of cosmetics and ladies magazines rely on you trusting if not. The truth that queer women are much more familiar with this versus heteros is definitely another piece of research that queer women are smarter and much better than everyone else if in case we were in control, everyone would feel a lot better about themselves!

Riese
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